Attitude is everything. Mental attitudes either help you get there or hinder progress, whatever the end goal may be, and one of the most damaging attitudes anyone can adopt is the victim spirit.
What is the spirit of the victim?
The spirit of the victim is a negative idea. Blames others for feeling unhappy about the situation. This is the proverbial “finger-pointing” scenario.
People committed to the spirit of the victims see life through a narrow lens of pessimistic perception and believe that everything that happens in life is the result of external factors. Internal reflection is not considered. Being a victim means avoiding your guilt. There is nothing to blame for them, until now! Those who participate in the Victim Menity most often enjoy the attention, empathy, and verification of playing this “poor me” role.
When we are in the position of victims, the focus is not on how powerful we are but on how vulnerable we are.
No one is born with a victim spirit, but no one escapes the role of victim. It turns out that sweet old grandparents, doting and well-meaning moms and dads, teenagers, and even those who consider themselves “spiritually awakened” live in this loser territory.
All living people have played the role of victim many times in their lives.
Victims want to be mentally prepared for the worst. Unfortunately, for those who live in the victim position, this self-destructive behavior is because they are convinced that “disasters are waiting around the next corner” when things seem to be happening, and it will be stronger.
So how do you get out of this self-defeating “woe is me” type of pessimistic programming? Most of them were raised and adopted as children.
It all starts with your perception/your perspective. Do you recognize yourself as a survivor or a victim?
Survivors embrace and flow with life. They live in the present and dominate their lives. They are fully aware that they are the only ones responsible for what happens. They know that by taking responsibility for their lives, they have the power to change their lives.
On the other hand, the victims fall into self-pity, refute, and rejection in life. They have lived in the past and believe that changing the situation is powerless, the key to avoiding responsibility. They live defensively and remain frozen in time without progress as their perception tells them they are worthless.
The cost of the victim mentality is high. It harms all areas of professional and personal life. Those who consider themselves failures live as victims since loss only comes to those who give up.
If we want to get out of the victim’s spirit, we must first possess it. You cannot change what does not belong to you. We must change our attitude and know that “change begins with me”. We have to embrace survival and take action steps… some goals that we are trying to achieve, no matter how small they seem or how trivial they are now.
Most importantly, we must continually empower ourselves with the words “can” and “do” and stop disparaging the phrase “can’t” or “can’t” and beliefs.
And we have to accept gratitude, the best attitude. Every day we need to take the time to reflect on everything that makes us happy, everything that is working well in our lives. Keeping our mind/energy focused on positive situations helps counteract the victim’s spirit.
After all, we should respect ourselves with the same respect and love that we are trying to give to others. Only then will our minds and actions shift from victim position to survival mode.
The truth is that we cannot control the behavior of others or all the situations that arise in our lives, but we can control how we react to them. We don’t have to be victims. It’s a choice. Whatever happens or comes our way, we should see it as a challenge, not an excuse.
Are you looking for a powerful partner to help erase the negative victim tapes that play over and over in your head? You don’t have to look any further than your local gym. Spilling blood through challenging exercises and initiating “happy and pleasurable” hormones overcomes negativity, defeats the victim mentality, and makes feel physically, mentally, and emotionally healthy. It’s one of the best ways to get on the road faster.
“You deserve your love and affection, as does anyone in the entire universe”